Czytaj książkę: «InfluenSir»
© JNika, 2020
ISBN 978-5-4498-6309-6
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INTRO
My dearest kings and queens, my beloved souls! I welcome your majesties on the pages of my InfluenSir book, your royal charisma personal guide – today you have me, JNika, as your pilot.
How to be an idol of thousands of people? How to be charismatic and inspiring on your blog? How eventually to be an Instagram star? In this book you will find all the answers – and even more!
I know really a lot about this things because I have more then 180K followers on my Instagram. I am blogger, life coach and author of 6 books, I teach dream life style, royal charm and charisma for several years and make my students from 47 countries charismatic real stars!
I wrote this book from my heart, it is based on my coaching and blogging experience – and I didn’t hire editors or translators on purpose so you can hear my real voice and real speech from the pages of this book, the voice you used to hear in my podcasts and videos. English is not my native language so if you find some mistakes or any weird phrases here please forgive me because I will give you all my secrets in this book which is devoted to charisma and leadership on Instagram and in real life – the secrets that made me a really successful blogger, speaker and international top-ranked writer.
CHAPTER 1. How to inspire the whole world. Hero’s story method
In our first chapter we will talk about how to inspire yourself and how to inspire others through yourselves. It can be little bit difficult to challenge the fact that until we are not inspired by ourselves, we cannot inspire others, charge them with our charisma and be leaders for them, and behave with people as a leader. And this, of course, is an indisputable truth.
It all starts with us and we come to such a magical topic as «inspiration» through ourselves, through the ability to work with our internal energies, forces and resources. You can say that you do not know what inspires other people and that you have nothing to inspire other people. But this is not true! Each person, each of you has something that you do better than others, what you do great and masterly.
And I suggest to start from this point. And I ask you never, ever, starting from this moment, think that your skills are insignificant and poor. There will always be a person for whom what you do is cool, for whom it matters. And if you know how to cook, sew, draw, embroider or simply apply makeup, then there will always be people who want to be able to do this as well as you do.
I think you already guessed – the depreciation of talents leads to their dissolution. And if people tell you that you are an awesome specialist, that you are doing something superbly, and you are dismissing it and neglecting it, then you already guess what will happen? Figuratively speaking, the Universe will shrug its shoulders and say: «Well then, since she doesn’t value my gifts, my presents, then I’d probably give it to another girl, the one who appreciates them better. Because people are a very accurate indicator.
Through people the Universe shows us what we are capable of.
Please pay attention to what other people are telling you. I tell you this in the topic of charisma and leadership in Instagram, because we need to be inspired in our hearts to inspire ourselves. Be your own biggest fan. Live a bright, beautiful life. Live in a magnificent Universe.
When we look into ourselves, we surely are looking for sources. We must find them. What can stop us in the search? This is an elementary banal laziness and excessive soul-searching. I ask you: at first do not go deeply into yourself. Do not look for subtleties in yourself: «Ok I can do this and that well but whats the point if everything else I do is bad.» Our task now: leave it all aside, tell yourself just like Scarlett O’Hara: «I will think about it tomorrow.» And you will think about it tomorrow – if you want, of course.
When we talk about charisma on Instagram – oh, this is such a deep moment! – we affect everything, we affect the power of our thoughts.
We can think about our beloved man, we can think about how to dress beautifully, what to cook for dinner. But for some reason, people prefer to think about completely different things. About things that humiliate them, about things that make them lower. Why do we have to do this? We must become higher! I will honestly say that it happened to me too, and then by the power of will, knowledge and consciousness, consciously, competently, I push all these thoughts away and say to myself: «Do you want to think about it? After all, there are a million things in the world that I can think about. Things that make me stronger and higher! Because only strong person can be a leader for his followers!»
And what if you sincerely think that you are really cool or awesome? Well, you are doing it right, because you are broadcasting it. And when you realize that you inspire other people, your life – believe me! – really makes sense. It really does. I want you to feel this feeling when you inspire other people. This is an indescribable feeling – nothing can be compared with it! Nothing is like this. This can be compared a little with the state of love, the thrill of the first dates – but this feeling is much deeper. Even as a writer, I can’t pick up any comparisons, analogies.
You will have only one homework for this chapter – but it can be difficult for you. You will write your hero’s story. What is the story of a hero? This is a story about your overcoming yourself, about your becoming. People love heroes – and superheroes especially.
My favorite universe is Marvel, I just love superheroes. Why am I telling you this when we talk about charisma or leadership? The industry of superheroes: comics, films, figures, logos – these are billions of dollars in turnover. And we as leaders – we are not just consumers, we are not just cogs in this system, we are not just looking at these magical heroes. We are leaders, and we make this industry serve us!
We realize that people love superheroes, and for them we become a superhero.
What kind of features does the superhero have? In any case, he overcame something. He BECAME a superhero. I do not remember such a superhero who was born a hero. In any case, he went through something.
We need to become superheroes for our audience. To do this, we need to tell a story about how we overcame something, how we came out of some troubles as heroes. Remember the classic movie when the explosions happen, and the main character comes, he has a t-shirt torn, he is battered – he comes out as a hero, and until the end of the film he remains a hero…
Why am I telling you this? Because when you introduce into the consciousness of people that you are a hero, that you have overcome something, you remain the hero until the end of the film. What is a movie? Our whole life is a movie. You become a series that is always interesting to watch. And yes! I’m talking about Instagram now. I always love to find someone new on Instagram to follow him. Because it is a series that you watch every day, and it never bothers if the person is interesting. And now we are learning to become such people.
Through vibration we include in our space everything that we want.
As a writer, I will tell you that the written word is also vibration. The magic of books is based on this. Words written have the same power as words spoken.
The hero’s story will need to be posted on social networks – and this is the most difficult. You will need to not only write it – you will need to publish your hero’s story, open it to people so that they see an example in you. This is very important – if you do not make your story public, nothing will work.
I noticed that people on Instagram are divided into about three categories. First category is home Instagram – for yourself, for friends. It’s just that people post something from time to time, share with their friends what is happening in life, and they are subscribed to several interesting people whose lives they are eager to watch.
The second category is vast: these are people who are actively trying to develop on Instagram. These are those people who are actively searching the Internet for blog templates, constantly come up with some topics, headings… And especially those who constantly go into collective giveaways. I never went into giveaways. I realized that if you go into one collective giveaway, and you are doomed, you will never leave there in your life. The giveaway passed, the subscribers left, and you are frantically looking for a new give.
And the third category of people are people like me. They blog as God willing. They want it – they do 3—4 posts a day, they want it – they don’t go on the air for 5 days. They keep their blog as comfortable as they like. And at the same time (!) they receive the same bonuses as those who climb over to develop their blog.
How to jump in the sweetest 3d category – I will definitely tell you in the next chapters!
How to be a source of inspiration for your subscribers.
My dearest kings and queens, my beloved souls. I wanna talk to you about motivation for blogging and how to be a source of inspiration for your subscribers.
Do not mix please motivation and inspiration! Motivation exists externally. This is a tool artificially created by people. Motivation works only if we turn it on. You don’t need motivation if you have strong will for living the life of your dream!
My students ask me very often: «JNika, how to stay motivated for blogging? How to be motivated to post new content everyday?» And I always answer: «Oh, you don’t have to! Just let other people live the life of your dreams! Let them get presents and collaborations from awesome brands. Let other people have a huge audience. Let other people be a star! Because I see you are not really ready for living for dream star life. It’s more comfortable for you as I see it just to be a common person with a common life!»
Because if you really know what it all is for you will never ask yourself to stay motivated.
You will wake up every day full of energy and you will make awesome content till night. You will study all the apps for editing pics and ask all your friends to make reposts of what you are doing just to impress at least one, just one new follower a day! And – it’s magic! – this one follower will become a thousand and 10 thousands an 100 thousands.
Motivation is a greatest lie of 2010’s. Inspiration – that what really matters! Inspiration makes you reading my book now, inspiration makes you creating new ideas to post on your blog. Lists of themes for blogging are so popular – some bloggers even sell their themes lists! But do you really need someone else themes? Another’s themes? Another’s blog? Another’s life?
Inspiration is an inexhaustible source of energy. Inspiration is what makes your soul singing. This is what makes you jump up in the middle of the night, sit down at your computer and start writing.
Here’s your life-hack: if an idea comes to you before going to bed, be sure to write it down! Nothing is held in short-term memory after sleep. Therefore, we the bloggers always have a notebook near the bed for fixing the idea.
You need to be constantly inspired – it does matter! Instagram itself can provide inspiration for many weeks. For being a successful blogger we equally need both inspiration and motivation. There are routine projects when inspiration is not enough, for example, to write a book. This project is several weeks long or even several months. And in this case of course, you cannot use just one inspiration – you need persistent motivation. The most effective motivation comes from others – it is an instrument invented by other people. And if we have a long-term project, inspiration itself will not be enough. The size of the project can scare us. We will seem small to ourselves. And in this case, motivation, clear deadlines and a strong image of goal help us.
What questions can you ask yourself to inspire other people? It is important! Every day I ask myself the same questions. Every day, no matter where I am at the point of success. No matter where I currently live. No matter what size my group is: 7 people or 500.
Who am I?
Why am I doing what I’m doing?
Will I do it tomorrow?
What am I doing this for?
How does what I do help other people?
You know, if I do something just for myself, I would just enjoy life – we are people, we always want easy ways. But we have a mission, we have a great mission – we came to Earth for a reason! We came to interact with each other.
And now this topic of leadership on Instagram is more important then ever, and every year this topic will gain weight. Believe me, this topic will be useful to you in the future. I started talking about this now not by chance, but for you so that you can always be ahead.
Inspire others by your personal example. When you preach something, you need to practice it. If we want the world around us to change, we ourselves must become the force that will bring change to it. We must become the center of reality – the point everything spins around. We do not have to be an expert in everything. It does not matter to the Instagram leader. An Instagram leader is not an expert in everything. Moreover, people do not expect any expertise from us, they expect a very powerful charge of energy from us. What is our task?
We simply inspire other people experience a positive feeling.
You can do this now – just feel joy and happiness in the center of your chest or in your forehead, the area of the third eye. Just feel how it feels, just think of yourself as a perfectly charged battery! And when the feeling becomes really strong – then you are ready to come to your people!
My students tell me: «I don’t know what my talent is, I am untalented». And for such nihilists I also have a life-hack: share things that inspire you. If something inspired you – a book, an article – share it with your loved ones. But share it to spread some love! Not just because you want to get some likes.
Just soak all your post and everything you are doing on Instagram with your love!
Spread love – and you will receive love back!
Don’t write your posts just for likes. Write them personally for your mother, grandmother, or girlfriend – tell them how this book or an article or hobby inspired you. Because if you find something valuable and wonderful for yourself in this book, it is possible that the other person will also find it.
You become a transmitter of inspiration.
Becoming a transmitter of inspiration means getting closer to it. The Universe considers you as a value of inspiration. If I am valuable to the world, the world will take care of me. If I bring value to this world, the world will do everything to make me comfortable, so that I continue to bear this value. How can we be helpful? Useful means the giver. I’m walking along the street, and my mood is fine, and I smile and raise everyone’s mood with this. I am sharing energy. I post my happiness wishing the same for my followers – and they really feel it!
How to be a source of inspiration? Nothing is easier! When I start stream or broadcast I know that I need to charge people. I close my eyes and imagine that there is a light inside me. Small or large – it depends on my mood at that moment. If I have a tender, affectionate mood, then I may have a little light, like the flame of a candle. If something good happened to me, I can imagine this fire is burning from me. My internal energy is so well-trained (you can definitely do this too!) that even a small light shines very strongly. Just burn a little fire inside yourself – that a secret! You too can do this before your live broadcasts or recording the stories.
CHAPTER 2. The core of your royal charisma
The queen is doing fine. She rules the whole game. Everything that comes from her hands and her soul is very beautiful. Queen never forgets who she is. And today I want you, my beautiful kings and queens, to feel the royal energy inside you! Just look at big bloggers – they always act like stars and their audience greats them like kings!
Create your royal life right now! Everything you do can be royal – even your everyday shower. Just imagine you stand under the tropical waterfall and butterflies fly around you. Feel this amazing air and drops of pleasant water on your smooth skin…
If you feel royal everybody will consider you to be royal.
And you come out of such a shower not just a common person who has come out of the shower. You go out as a tropicana wild queen. And after such a magic shower you will write amazingly magic posts! See a queen when you look at the mirror. See the queen when you look in your front camera. That’s a magical feeling! And you can live in this world of your dreams during the day as much as you want. Because 80% of people already live in dreams and fantasies. But what are their dreams?
«Someday things will get better.
Someday my husband will stop cheating on me.
By the summer I will definitely lose weight.
I’ll start it on Monday’.
That is my favorite Pareto principle. 20% of the people lead the remaining 80%. Only 20% of all bloggers are top-bloggers. Because 80% of people have really dull and grey dreams. But 20% of Insta-leaders go into dreams, which beauty can not be conveyed by any writer, any single movie or Instagram pic.
D R E A M B I G!
I will make you unstoppable!
So thats how I understand this principle, the Pareto principle, when we talk with you about charisma and leadership on Instagram. Only 20% of people lead other 80% – and those 80% are happy to be leaded! Even if they dream of being a big blogger too… For many years I use the Pareto principle – I have never failed.
Even one minute of being in such an energetically charged feeling renews your hormonal system. If you adjust your consciousness, one minute will always be enough for you. Your brain will do everything you say.
Imagine you say before your magic shower to your brain: «Now one minute passes for me like 40 minutes in the most luxurious tropical spa.» Your brain at first will not believe – it will blow up!
BUT you are more than a brain.
You are stronger than the brain.
You are the leading beauty!
You are a charismatic beautiful queen!
And you say to it: «Stop! I am more than you! I am soul, body and spirit. You belong to my body. I still have soul and spirit – willpower.» When you combine spirit and soul, your brain is forced to surrender.
The brain is an instrument for a rational and thinking person. I subordinate all its power to fulfill the mission of my soul. And I came here with my soul to make people’s lives better, richer, brighter. Because of this I have a lot of energy – I need it to lead huge audiences!
And you forcibly lead your brain by the strength of your spirit. Everything here in this life is kind of a joke, but serious joke. You tell your brain quite seriously with a sweet smile on your lips: «I now have here only one minute that will pass like a whole day in the most luxurious spa.» And you just wash your face, and you are already well. If you devote some time to your beauty in such a way every day, then soon you will be very surprised at how fresh and good you look in comparison with your friends. You must be steadfast – and hold the position of a warrior.
The position of the warrior does not depend on gender. You are not a woman or a man. You are a human! You are spirit, soul. You are the universal embodiment of everything magical, beautiful, wonderful that is existing on this planet. And the position of a warrior is an inner core that allows you to stay straight and confident, even if someone says, writes, thinks something negative about you. Something your brain – your servant – does not want to accept. The position of a warrior does not imply battles. When I tell you: «Accept the position of a warrior» – this does not imply battles. Because we have no one to fight in outer world. WE are a queens and kings in our own kingdom. And if you are a queen yourself, then there can be no competitors for you! Of course, you will need this position of a warrior during interviews, in conversations with high-ranking people, when you need to punish someone, report back – you just feel it.
As for me I came up with this: first of all, I am a writer, I speak beautifully and valuably, especially since I am a goddess (firstly in my own thoughts). And every word that comes from my mouth is valuable. It is like a diamond falling from my lips. And when I took this position in myself, I can’t just say something or write just something. Everything I do in this posture is significant. If you behave with dignity, everyone will treat you with dignity. And this is also a thought within the framework of our charisma.